Hey girls, hey! I’m so excited that you’re looking into doing a boudoir session! And even if you haven’t pulled the trigger and booked your session yet, gathering information and learning more about what to expect from your session is a great step to gaining the confidence to get in front of the camera! In this post, I’m going to hit all the areas of what you need to do to prepare for a boudoir session. I’ll have more specialized posts in the future as well, but I wanted to get all this info out in one place so you have a resource to turn to before your session. We’ll be touching on a few different ways to help you prepare for your session today!
Check out my Pinterest board for prepping for your session, too!
I really don’t feel like you can go wrong with whatever you choose to bring to your session. You know your body. You know what you like on you. You know what HE likes on you. But I do have some pretty fail proof ideas!
- Button down chambray or white shirt (can be yours or his) paired with lacy booty shorts. This pair is great inspiration!
- Bralette and panty set. Here’s one I love. Or here’s one that’s a little more risqué!
- Add a kimono or lacy robe over a bra and panty set for a versatile look.
- You can never go wrong with a well fitting teddy! I love this, this, and this!
- Pair a cute pair of denim cutoffs with a sheer shirt or slouchy tee.
- If you want to do some topless shots, a cute pair of panties with extra detail is always cute! These, these, or these are some inspo!
I really feel like boudoir is a good time to go fun with your hair! You can never go wrong with big, sexy curls. I love using your hair as part of the posing during your session. We’ll do a lot of hair flips, grabbing ends of it, putting pieces in your face, and just letting it go wild. I know some people are really comfortable with curing your own hair, and I say go for it if that’s you! But if you’re anything like me, it’s totally worth spending the little extra to have your go to hairstylist add some big curls. Kevin Murphy Bedroom Hair is my go to for the perfect texturized curl!
This is the same as hair for me. If makeup application is your jam, you go girl! But if makeup application leaves you looking a little like a toddler with untethered access to a makeup bag (that’s me), then maybe hire out a professional! Having your makeup professionally done for the day just adds to getting glammed up and making your day extra special. Makeup artists are also pros at understanding how makeup looks in the camera. What your makeup looks like in real life is not what it looks like in pictures, and artists know just how to add the extra you need to have it look great in photo! If you’re doing your own makeup, here are some of my tips!
- Go bold with your lip! I think a little or a lot of color looks great in boudoir. You’re welcome to change up your lip color during your session if you would like!
- All about the lashes, baby! This is a great day to add some falsies or an extra layer of mascara.
- Contour. Contouring looks great in pictures, but remember to go a little more dramatic. Makeup doesn’t show up in pictures as much as it does in real life, so always wear more than you normally do!
- Dramatic eyes are just dreamy for boudoirs!
Here’s where it gets good, ladies! Want to know a secret? I didn’t start believing that I could be a successful boudoir photographer until I started to have confidence in myself. And it’s been a journey! But this book is where this journey started. And it led to this podcast and this podcast. And then it led to more books, more podcasts, more talks with girlfriends, more self reflection, more time for myself and making myself a priority…. you see where this is going?! I wish I could say showing up for a boudoir session just instills complete confidence in you, but I believe we are all on our own individual journey towards confidence and completely accepting ourselves.
That being said, I have completely fallen in LOVE with boudoir photography because of the shift that happens in one hour of shooting with a woman. Almost every time I start a session, the client starts out with pointing out all their flaws; the stretch marks, the saggy skin, the dropped chest, the love handles, the acne, the flat chest, the wide hips, the big bum…. we all have our “trouble areas,” and it’s very clear that we all focus on those the most. But here’s what’s amazing. During the session, a shift happens. We start seeing the stretch marks and saggy skin as the sign of our body changing due to the miracle of making a HUMAN CHILD. Like, what even?! We literally can grow humans ladies! How amazing is that?! And we see that “big bum” as the part of our body our husband loves the most. We see our drooping boobs as a remembrance that we fed those humans we grew in an act of completely selflessness and love. We see the wide hips as beautiful curves. Something about getting in front of a camera in a real and vulnerable way really helps us to call ourselves out on the lies we feed ourselves.
I am NOT saying that doing a boudoir session will magically make you accept every part of your body. I always am conflicted between loving myself as I am and wanting a more healthy body because I’m making healthier choices for it. It’s something we struggle with ladies – it’s not going to go away overnight. But getting back an album of boudoir pictures are realizing that we are amazingly beautiful, perfectly curved, sexy, and different than we may view ourselves as is definitely a rewarding and empowering experience.
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